You Shall Make Your Mission, Not Your Woman, Your Priority

III.    You Shall Make Your Mission [i.e job], Not Your Woman, Your Priority

Despite whatever protestations to the contrary, women do not want to be "The One" or the center of a man's existence.


A typical Nice Guy thinks he is supposed to make his woman the center of his universe.   He thinks the sun rises between her legs each morning and caters to most of her wishes.   The problem is that when your woman does something fucked up (and she will, she's human after all) it will screw up your entire life.

Lets get real here for a few minutes. When I found out my wife was thinking of leaving me, I literally felt as if my universe was crashing down around me.   This is the problem when you make your entire life about making your woman happy.   When that woman leaves you, cheats or does something else messed up, you feel as if you don't know how you're going to be able to carry on without her.  

Instead, your woman should just be a planet in your universe, not the center of it.  You should strive to have your own friends, own hobbies, and other things you can do without her.   Say for example you want to go see a movie.   Like most guys, you will ask your woman if she wants to go see that movie.  If she says no, often what guys do is refuse to go to movies without her.    What you SHOULD do is go see the movie anyway.   One thing this will do is give you time away from your woman because it's not healthy to be around each other 24/7.    Also, it tends to knock her off that pedestal that you've placed her on.   She'll realize that you're not going to act like some groupie who's only willing to do what she wants to do.

Granted when your woman messes up, it's still going to hurt, but it will hurt a lot less if you haven't made her the center of your universe.