Too often we (Nice Guys) care too much about what people think when it comes to happiness and our relationships. Too often we let the imaginary rules of society determine what it is that we're supposed to be doing with our lives. Society says we're just supposed to put our heads down and keep our nose to the grindstone and we'll have a happy existence.
Friends and family, like to put their own moral judgement of what is right and wrong into other people's relationships. Back when my wife and I were swinging, some of her male friends would say "No man should ever want to see his woman with another man". That statement kind of stuck with me for a while and in some ways made me ashamed that I had ever tried swinging. But then I really thought about it. One of the guys who said this, his wife is REALLY insecure and only gets sex a few times a month. Not to mention he is on his 2nd marriage. One of the other guys cheats on his wife regularly and was trying to fuck my wife that very same weekend. Who are either of these people to pass judgement on what a guy should and should not be okay with?
What works for one couple's relationship doesn't necessarily work for other couples. Truth is, there are no concrete rules for what determines one's happiness in a relationship, and everybody is just figuring out things as they go along, just like you are. Decide what makes you and your partner happy, and then DO IT. Screw what everybody else thinks because usually they don't know what they're talking about. As long as what you are doing isn't causing harm to anybody else....GO FOR IT! Make up your own boundaries and guidelines for what works and don't let society decide it for you.
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