So as I've alluded to in other blogs, my wife and I used to be sexual swingers. For those that don't know what swinging is, it's basically when a couple decides to have sex with other people while still maintaining their relationship. For this blog and the next, I'm going to focus on the pros and cons of swinging from a male point of view. There are also different categories of swinging:
Soft Swapping: This usually involves two couples getting together and only the females playing with each other. Each male participates only with his own partner. A lot of couples that are new to swinging usually start out this way, as they aren't quite prepared to watch their mate have sex with another person.
Full Swapping: This is when two couples get together and each male has sex with the other spouse or partner, and it also may involve the females playing with each other as well.
Cuckold: Usually this is when a man likes to watch his partner have sex with other men and doesn't really participate. There may also be some form of humiliation involved for the guy who is watching, such as having to get them drinks, or "clean up" after sex.
There are lots of other categories but for our purposes I just wanted to focus on the main ones. So in Part I let's focus on the pro's (positive aspects) of swinging.
1. It is exciting
This is probably the number one benefit from swinging. Having sex with other people with your partner's permission can be extremely exciting. It's really the best of both worlds. You get all of the love, closeness, and sex from a traditional relationship, but you also get to have sex with other people you are attracted to. It's also exciting visiting sex clubs or looking online at swinger websites to check out who you want to hook up with. When you find another person or couple that you are sexually compatible with and attracted to, you feel like you've hit the jackpot.
2. Threesomes are AWESOME
Let me repeat. Threesomes are not just awesome, they are INSANELY awesome. The only thing that's better than having two women pleasing you at the same time is having THREE women pleasing you. If you've never had a threesome before, I definitely recommend you put it on your bucket list. My threesome was almost a year ago and I still smile just thinking about how great it was. Know how awesome it is to have your woman riding you? Well imagine another woman sitting on your face making out with your woman while she rides you. Told you it was awesome.
3. All your fantasies fulfilled
Swinging is one of the best ways to get all of your sexual fantasies fulfilled. Do you fantasize about giving your wife a threesome? You can make that happen. Do you fantasize about watching other people have sex? You can visit a local swingers club and make that happen. During the course of swinging, you'll probably discover even more fantasies that you never realized you had before, and you can make most of them come true.
4. You will make some new friends
One of the BEST things about swinging is you start meeting more open-minded people like yourself. Not to say that your regular friends aren't great, but lets be honest. When you're around other "normal" couples at a party, most of the conversation centers around work and kids. When you're around other swinger couples they may still be talking about work, but conversations also focus on sex and you get to hear what exciting sexual episodes they had last week. They can also refer you to other swingers that you might be compatible with. Also, having swinger friends makes for an interesting birthday party. If it's your birthday, it's not uncommon for the women to "fixate" on the birthday boy while all the other males cheer him on. I don't know about you, but I'd much rather be wished happy birthday with multiple pairs of tits in my face than having Pete from Accounting blab away about how smart his kid is. Even though we no longer swing, we still remain friends with some of the people we've met.
5. It's a great ego boost
It's very flattering to know that somebody else wants to screw your brains out. It's an even bigger ego boost if they want to keep hooking up with you because you're awesome in bed. For a Nice Guy, we are always second guessing ourselves when it comes to wondering if someone is attracted to us or not. In the swinging lifestyle, you instantly know who is attracted to you. Women are usually a little more aggressive when they are swinging so it's very common for a woman to approach a man and express sexual interest right away. This is awesome for guys who aren't used to women approaching them. Sometimes when you settle down you forget just how attractive you are or your partner is. Swinging opens up a whole new door of appreciation for your partner, and she will also be turned on knowing other women desire you.
6. You'll learn some new sexual tricks
Everyone has different sexual tricks they've mastered over the years, so it's always a great thing when you discover something new. One of the things we learned is that my wife can squirt during anal sex. Neither of us knew this before, so this was an awesome discovery. I have also learned how to make my wife and other women squirt by using my hands, and it works almost 100% of the time. Awesome. Since you two are discovering new things about each other and hooking up with different people, your sex life will never get boring and dull.
So those are some of the pluses so to speak when it comes to swinging. Now I know I've made swinging out to be the greatest thing since sliced bread, but there are some very real negatives attached to the lifestyle as well, which I'll cover in the next blog.
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