Party time

So you've been dabbling in the swingers world for a while and you feel like you'd like to host your own party.   Here are some tips to get you started.

1.  Don't be afraid to ask folks to contribute.

Don't feel awkward or weird about asking people to contribute in some way to the party.    Look at it this way.   We don't live too far from a well-known swingers club.    The entry fee for couples is anywhere from $40 - $60 to get into this club, and that doesn't even include purchasing a membership if you aren't a member.     Then throw in the cost of drinks.   Let's say a 3 month membership costs you about $40.   So it's not out of the realm to say a couple could easily spend over $100 going to a swingers club.  

When we used to have parties, we would ask people to bring a bottle of their favorite alcohol to share to add to our existing alcohol, and we would cook up a bunch of finger food and appetizers.   Your guests will spend a lot less money bringing a bottle of alcohol than they would at a swingers club.   Also, it's been our experience that you're more likely to laid going to a house party than you will at a club.   We would have anywhere from 12-18 people at our house, and we find that a smaller setting provides a lot more opportunity to get to talk, laugh, and connect with people.   We know of another couple that will throw parties at a hotel suite and will usually ask couples to pay a $10 entry fee.  

2.   Condoms, Clean Sheets, and Towels

Don't forget to put a bowl of condoms in each room, you want to encourage people to have safe sex, and you don't want your guests stumbling around trying to find a condom during the heat of the moment.     You may also want to provide a change of bedsheets in each room, as well as a towel.   Don't worry about buying expensive sheets, the cheap sheets will work just fine.  Also you may want to invest in some air mattresses as well to give your guests more options for fun.

3.  Meet people before inviting them.

I strongly suggest meeting people before inviting them, especially if you are going to have the party at your house.  Some people will post the details of their party on a swingers site, and that's fine if that works for you, but we always liked to control who was going to show up.   The one hotel party we went to, some of the guys just seemed to be "weirdos" and we didn't really like the vibe.   We always liked having more control over the people we let come to our house, and we felt like it makes for a better party.  Also as the man of the house, you may want to walk around and check out all the action that's going.   If you see a female looking around like she needs help if some guy has cornered her, you will want to step in and help out.  You always want to make sure your single female guests feel safe if they come alone.

4.   Make most of the males bring a female date

When we first started swinging, we were having a hard time meeting females so one of the things I did was find some single males to invite to our party, but I required them to bring a female.    This serves a few purposes.   For one, it keeps your party from being a sausage fest. (Trust me, at least two of the females who accept your invite will flake out and not show up.)   Also, we find that males who can bring a "date" are usually a little better behaved.   Third, this is a great way to meet some more single females.   My one and only threesome came about this way, because I got the phone number from one of the females who was brought along as a date, and we set up a threesome just a few weeks later.

5.   Invite the freakiest female you know.

The first time you throw a party and get a group of people together, everyone will be a little nervous and anxious.   It's like everyone is standing around...making conversation....but everyone's scared to make that first move, or be the first one to get naked.    Enter your freaky friend.    See, the freaky female friend serves multiple purposes.   By freaky I mean a female who loves to fuck and won't hesitate to get naked.  At our first party, we were 2 hours in and everyone was still talking...no one had taken the plunge yet.   Finally after half an hour, one of our female friends went and changed clothes.    She came out wearing just a robe, pulled out a dildo, got on our couch and started pleasing herself with the dildo.   After about 5 mins of watching a guy walked over to her and they started having fun.   Then everybody loosened up and people starting rubbing and feeling on each other.     Having a freaky female friend helps get the party started, and because she loves to fuck she will make sure all the guys (and females in this case since our friend is bisexual) at your party have a great time.  Remember, as a male the LAST thing you want is to be competing for pussy at your own party.

6.  Account for the flakes

Always have a contingency plan for the people who are going to flake.   The people most likely to flake on your party will be the females.    You should expect at LEAST two of the females you invite to stand you up.  See the keywords for a flake are "maybe" or "I'll have to see".      Anyone who says this, you might as well plan on them not showing up.    We would always invite about 20 people, knowing only 15 or so would actually show up.


7.   Expect the unexpected and don't get too frustrated

If you are throwing your party with your wife or girlfriend, you two need to discuss any rules you two have prior to the party.   Always know though, sometimes things will not go as planned.  The first party we hosted was close to my birthday, so the plan was for my wife to round up at least two other women for me and then go upstairs to have a foursome for me.

Like I said...that was the PLAN lol.    What ended up happening is one of the guys took my half-drunk wife by the hand upstairs to our bedroom and I didn't see much of her until the party was pretty much over, except for me checking on her from time to time to make sure she was okay.  Every time she finished with one guy, another guy would be coming into our bedroom so she was "hosting" in her own special way.

Finally near the end of the night I got frustrated and went to find some women of my own.   I let them know what was supposed to happen for my birthday and I finally got two women to go upstairs with me.  (In hindsight it was kinda sad actually, me standing there basically begging for women to give me a threesome...LOL.   Remember what I said about how you shouldn't be competing for pussy at your own party...).    A key point here to keep in mind is that with swinging (and life in general I think) you are responsible for your own happiness.   Don't sit back and wait for someone else to make something happen for you, just go do it yourself.  Depending upon other people for our own happiness is a recipe for disappointment.

So the two women were on me for all of about 3 mins, and then 2 guys came in and started playing with the women.  The one who was giving me head started getting fucked from behind, so she lost her concentration so to speak and forgot about me.  Then two more people came into the room, so there was a total of about six people all on the bed and I was kind of at the bottom of the pile, mad as hell that my threesome was ruined.  (Note to other men.   If you're at a party and you're about to get a threesome, lock the door so other guys don't ruin it.)    There was one point earlier in the party where I was sitting on the couch with a woman, and she told me to go get a condom.    I ran upstairs to get a condom, sat back down on the couch and put the condom on.  Well at that particular moment she walked outside with her husband to smoke a cigarette.   So there I sat on the couch with a hard dick wearing a condom while they walked outside to smoke.   Talk about a frustrating night....lol.     I went to another party where one of the single guys was having sex with someone's wife and wasn't wearing a condom, and all shit broke loose after that and the guy got kicked out.   Just know that sometimes things happen that are out of your control.

Something will probably happen during the course of that night that might frustrate you.   You or your girlfriend may break one of your established rules, so you'll have to deal with that when the party is over.  Someone may get drunk and throw up, or you may be left sitting on the couch wearing a condom with a hard dick LOL.   Just always remember to discuss things with your partner about things that come up with open and honest communication.   It might also be a good idea to take a break from swinging for a few weeks after hosting a party to reconnect with your partner.