The 16 Commandments of Poon

These commandments have been around for quite a few years that first came out on a blog called "Heartiste: Where Pretty Lies Perish".   I don't agree with all of it, but it's something that every Nice Guy definitely needs to read at least once:

I.  Never Say I Love You First

Women want to feel like they have to overcome obstacles to win a man's heart.  They crave the challenge of capturing the interest of a man who has other women competing for his attention.

II.  Make Her Jealous

Flirt with other women in front of her.  Do not dissuade other women from flirting with you.  Women will never admit this, but jealousy excites them.   No woman wants a man that other women don't want.

III.  You Shall Make Your Mission [i.e. job], Not Your Woman, Your Priority

Despite whatever protestations to the contrary, women do not want to be "The One" or the center of a man's existence.

IV.  Don't Play By Her Rules

If you allow a woman to make the rules she will resent you with a seething contempt even a rapist cannot inspire.  The strongest woman and the most strident feminist wants to be led by, and submit to, a more powerful man.

V.  Adhere To The Golden Ratio:  2/3

Give your woman 2/3 of everything she gives you.  For every three calls or texts, give her two back.  Three declarations of love earn two in return.  Three gifts; two nights out.  Give her two displays of affection and stop until she has answered with three more.

VI.  Keep Her Guessing

True to their inscrutable natures, women ask questions they don't really want direct answers to.  Woe be the man who plays it straight - his fate is the suffering of the beta.  Evade, tease, obfuscate.

VII.  Always Keep Two In The Kitty

A man with options is a man without need.

VIII.   Say You're Sorry Only When Absolutely Necessary

Do not say you are sorry for every wrong thing you do.  It is a posture of submission that no man should reflexively adopt, no matter how alpha he is.  Apologizing increases the demand for more apologies.

IX.  Connect with her emotions

Set yourself apart from other men and connect with a woman's emotional landscape.  Her mind is an alien world that requires deft navigation to reach your rendezvous.  Frolic in the surf of emotions rather than the arid desert of logic.

X.  Ignore Her Beauty

The man who trains his mind to subdue the reward centers of his brain when reflecting upon a beautiful female face will magically transform his interactions with women. [Those who] lose their awe of beauty will, in turn, lose their powerlessness under its spell.  It will help you acquire the right frame of mind to stop using the words hot, cute, gorgeous, or beautiful to describe girls who turn you on.  Instead, say to yourself "she's interesting" or "she might be worth getting to know".  Never compliment a girl on her looks, especially a girl you're not fucking.

XI.  Be Irrationally Self-Confident

No matter what your station in life, stride through the world without apology or excuse.  It does no matter if objectively you are not the best man a woman can get, what matters is that you think and act like you are.  Women have a dog's instinct for uncovering weakness in men; don't make it easy for them.

XII.  Maximize Your Strengths, Minimize Your Weaknesses

In the betterment of ourselves as men we attract women into our orbit...there is a groupie for every male endeavor.

XIII.  Err On The Side Of Too Much Boldness, Rather Than Too Little

Touching a woman inappropriately on the first date will get you further with her than not touching her at all.  Don't let a woman's faux indignation at your boldness sway you; they secretly love it when a man aggressively pursues what he wants and makes his sexual intentions known.


XIV.  Fuck Her Good

Fuck her like it's your last fuck.  And hers


XV.   Maintain Your State Control

You are an oak tree.  You will not be manipulated by crying, yelling, lying, head games, sexual withdrawal, jealousy ploys, pity plays, shit tests, hot/cold/hot/cold, disappearing acts, or guilt trips.  She will rain and thunder all around you and you will shelter her until her storm passes.  She will not drag you into her chaos or uproot you.  When you have mastery over yourself, you will have mastery over her.

XVI.  Never Be Afraid To Lose Her

You must not fear.  Fear is the love-killer.  Fear is the ego-triumph that brings abject loneliness.  You will face your fear.  She who can destroy you, controls you.  Don't give her that power over yourself.  Love yourself before you love her.